Wow! What’s Going On With the Universe?
Planets aligning, retrogrades, major life upheavals—there’s a lot happening out there. Many people I’ve spoken with are experiencing something curious: individuals from their past are reappearing. Ex-lovers, old classmates, former co-workers, and long-lost friends are suddenly resurfacing. Some of these encounters are heartwarming, others more complicated—but all seem to bring us down memory lane.
I believe there are no accidents. When people re-enter our lives, it’s not just coincidence. They’ve returned for a reason. The key is to stay open and listen—really listen—to what the universe might be trying to tell us. Why is that old goodbye now reappearing as a hello?
Rekindling Relationships: Why It Matters
Reconnecting with someone—whether a friend or a former partner—means making a conscious effort to re-establish a meaningful connection. At one point, this person mattered to you. Time or circumstances may have created distance, but something now is prompting a second look.
While the idea sounds romantic or hopeful, rekindling any relationship requires genuine effort. Open, honest communication is essential. So is a willingness to acknowledge any past issues or lingering hurt. After all, it’s hard to move forward if you’re still carrying a bag of bricks on your back—aka, a grudge.
Keys to Rekindling a Friendship or Relationship
1. Reach Out Sincerely
Send a heartfelt message or make a phone call expressing your desire to reconnect. Yes, it may require vulnerability. You might even start with: “I’m a little nervous about reaching out…” That honesty can open the door to deeper dialogue.
2. Reflect on the Past
Ask yourself: Why did the relationship fade? Were you incompatible? Did your values clash? Understanding the “why” can bring clarity and prevent repeating the same patterns.
3. Clean Up the Broken Pieces
Address any unresolved issues. Even if you choose not to move forward, having a healing conversation can bring closure—or peace—for both parties.
4. Be Patient
Trust takes time to rebuild. Don’t expect things to return to the way they were overnight. Let the reconnection evolve naturally.
5. Start Casually
Suggest a simple catch-up over coffee or lunch. Keep it light at first to ease into spending time together again.
6. Practice Active Listening
Truly hear what the other person is saying. Share your own experiences with authenticity. Time may have shifted perspectives—you might see things differently now.
7. Apologize if Needed
If you played a role in the disconnect, acknowledge it. A sincere apology can go a long way in mending old wounds.
8. Focus on the Positive
Reminisce about shared memories and the good times. Let that be the foundation for something new.
9. Respect Boundaries
Pay attention to the other person’s comfort level. If they seem hesitant, don’t push. Trust that if reconnection is meant to be, it will happen—in time.
10. Move Forward
History is an anchor, but don’t get stuck in “remember when.” Create new memories. Build something fresh and meaningful—how exciting is that?
Gentle Ways to Reconnect
- Social Media: Like or comment on a post to let them know they’re on your radar.
- Email or Text: Keep it casual—just check in.
- Virtual Call: A low-pressure way to reconnect without being in the same space.
- Attend an Event: Use a mutual friend’s gathering or shared interest to reconnect organically.
- Plan an Activity: Invite them to a concert, class, or hobby you both enjoy. Shared joy can reignite connection.
Sometimes, we need to go on our own journey to truly find our way back to the people and places that matter. Maybe you parted for a reason. But maybe, just maybe, you’ve come full circle for a reason too.
Listen to your inner voice. Trust the process of change and growth.
Saying goodbye until our next hello,
Michele
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